Category: Rambles

What to Wear at the Office

Do you like this new layout? I was getting a bit sick of the other one and I thought a change was in order. It feels so good to get back into web design, even if it’s only for a wee bit of time. So onto today’s post:

Obviously, one of the huge problems in the alternative subculture is being able to find a job. I’m going to say off the bat, I’m so fortunate to have had employers who’ve let me keep my piercings and my natural hair doesn’t get in the way of a prospective career. So I honestly can’t speak to the beauty aspect of finding a job, though I do know some ways:

However if you can have a job and need to figure out your wardrobe, that is something with which I can help.

For the jobs I’ve had, I wasn’t very sure about what to wear. Since I do like colours, I found some solid-coloured business casual wear for work, but I actually got in trouble for that. Just wear what you’d normally wear, my employers would say, and it upset me because business casual is in a way neutral, and I’d rather that than wear a style I don’t like. I’ve been told to get over my pride but, if you’re reading this, you’ll know that your pride is important. So over the years of working, I’ve narrowed down two ways of dressing for work and still maintaining your dignity.

Wear All Black

This one is the most obvious, but the thing I love about this is that basic black clothing is available on marketplaces like eBay for a rather cheap price, and you can incorporate several pieces into your regular wardrobe. Below I have a few pieces – both bought on eBay – that look smart but don’t break my everyday style.

The only downside of this is that people nice on the second day that you wear only black, and you get snarky comments. But nothing’s particularly wrong with wearing all black if you always look classy.

Grab Your Interests and Run with Them

You probably do like something outside of the alternative realm; some ideas include pin-up, vintage, or even a colour you like as well as black. My advice would be to go out and search for business-suitable clothes that you wouldn’t mind wearing, and for good measure, that you find them at a good price so you can spend more money on your greater interests. Below is a dress I got via eBay with red roses on it, which I find lovely since I like red roses and I have a soft spot for floral prints. It’s so simple but can easily pass for businesswear.

(I wear this dress with a black cardigan, obviously, but mine were in the wash when I was taking pictures for this post)

I hope that I was able to help you in some way and I wish you luck on your career endeavours. Just know that you’re definitely not alone when it comes to being alternative in the workplace and you have a whole support group of people who are willing to help.

Posted on Saturday, March 25, 2017
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Saving on Fashion Online: Survival Guide

Alright, so this post is something that I see requested so heavily on Tumblr and other social media platforms, and before I had a job, every single penny was spent cautiously. Living in the U.S., I feel that thrift stores don’t have as many alternative-friendly findings as in Europe, and the prices can still be a bit high. And even though DIY is always a good (and very goth) option, some of us don’t have the steady hand for sewing. So I’ve decided to do my own version of saving money on fashion by shopping online – something I have a lot of experience and expertise in.

Search Search Search Search Seach: I do so much research on the best prices for something before I go ahead and buy it. I go through Ebay, Google Shopping, and basic google searches to try to find the lowest price on something. I don’t go to Amazon personally but it’s also another good source. My philosophy is that you should always look for the total cost of something, meaning the cost of the product + shipping to your home. This is often overlooked, but paying $10 + $5 shipping is going to cost $3 more than buying the same product for $12 with no shipping. Additionally if the product is $20 with $20 shipping, if you don’t think it’s worth $40, don’t buy it – because $40 is what it’s going to cost you.

Know the Sites to Go To: Ebay, Amazon, Google Shopping, and Etsy are all great places to do searches for something specific or generic. (There’s also a website called Velvet Garden, which is like an advertising centre for used gothic fashion; however, my experience with them has been less than perfect.) Since not all online stores are sent to Google, it’s also a great idea to do a Google search for the items to see what comes up.

I’ve saved so much money due to Ebay.

Know What to Search For: Knowing what to search for is probably more important than knowing where to search. Which you can look for specific brands and basic features (black, lace, velvet, long sleeves, etc.), it’s a good idea to see what words are used frequently for the item you’re trying to find. That way, you can learn what words describe your style and branch out from there. You’ll find your results will be much more expansive and accurate once you pinpoint the correct keywords to use. Don’t forget to use synonyms either – searching for a “bodycon skirt” often produces different results from a “pencil skirt,” even though the two are virtually the same. With the example below, I have one dress that’s way expensive and another similar one that’s so much cheaper – but they have similar search terms. I found them both with the keyword “victorian.” * please note Etsy is usually much more expensive than other sites like Ebay or Amazon – cross-site searching is often necessary.

Join Email Lists! I cannot stress this enough: join email lists so you can get special offer updates, coupon codes, and a lot of times, a discount off your first order. The more email lists you’re on, the more access you’ll have to discounts. Additionally there are a few sites (usually resellers) like Infectious Threads that offer points for every purchase you make, meaning you’ll get discounts the more you spend.

My #1 mistake for saving money: spending money on stuff I don’t really like in the end, or ending up with an item with which I know not what to do. It’s really tricky to tell online if something you like will be as you image it. But, there are some tricks to make sure that you don’t splurge on items you’re not that big a fan of.

Read Reviews: A lot of websites have incorporated product review sections onto their product pages, but you can also find other reviews by doing a general web search. You can find out if products are quality, not quality, and sometimes, you’ll even find out that the company you’re looking at is a complete ripoff. It’s an investment in time that’ll save you money.

Know Your Style: Sit down with some images and try to define what your style is. If you’re on a budget, you want to make sure that everything you buy will fit in with your aesthetic. Ask, will I wear this every day or on occasion? Additionally, you will know where you want to spend your money most – whether it be on clothes, beauty supplies, shoes, accessories, or something else. A lot of people have a specialty. Or, if you like a balance of the aforementioned, then you can sit down and say, I have a good lipstick already, so now let’s find some good shoes. In my personal experience, it’s more difficult to spend money on something you’re not sure about, so it’s easier to feel this one out.

My favourite: the Rule of Threes: Buying a separate? That means you’re going to wear it with something, right? In my own experience, I’ve bought a tonne of clothes that I liked, but then didn’t have anything to wear them with. Now I always use the rule of threes: if I’m buying a separate, I need to have at least three other separates with which to wear it. For example, if I’m buying a new blouse, I need to find at least three bottoms that would match said blouse. Otherwise, what’s the point of buying something I can’t wear?

I hope that these tips were a bit new to you, and if so, that they’ll help you in the future. Until next week <3

Posted on Saturday, March 18, 2017
Post in Bloggish, Rambles

Gifts I’d Like to Get Next Week

Christmas is in eight days! And even though I suspect most Christmas shopping is already done, I wanted to share some things that I hope will be under the Christmas tree for me next week.

A Stuffed Animal

Bat by PezFlez

I’m a huge fan of stuffed animals, but it honestly means so much more when the animal and style is chosen specifically for me (i.e. it’s one of my favourite animals). So this cute Frederik bat by FlezArt would be so perfect since it’s a bat, it’s custom made, and it’s super cute.


Black Phoenix Academy Lab

Almost everyone loves perfume so this is a universally great gift. The thing to love about Black Phoenix Academy Lab is that they stay spooky but also diverse. It seems like there’s no end to the scents they come up with, so whether you’d like something inspired by vampires, faery tales, or classic movies, there’s something for you. (PS – I want all of these!)

Writing Material

Spells Journal by The Witchery Crafts

I love writing materials (journals, pens, etc.), whether I use them or simply have them around intending to use them one day. And there are so many creative writing materials out there! Take this beautiful Spells Journal by The Witchery Crafts – it would make amazing home d├ęcor and with the old-style paper, it would probably make anyone writing in it feel magical.

A Small Decoration

Skulls & Flowers Glass Dome by Damn French Desserts

Just like with writing material, there’s a plethora of creative and stunning decorations available in stores and around the web. Something like this Skulls & Flowers Glass Dome by Damn French Desserts would be a such a great gift since they can always be used and will always remind the receiver of the giver. (PS – I have the Butteries in a Bell Jar by the same company and I love it!)


Bonfire Dance by Necromancy Cosmetica

So many people love makeup and even though personal preference can be difficult to pinpoint sometimes, it’s always a nice gesture to buy someone something you think they’ll like. So here’s a tip: go for a brand’s more popular product. Take, for example, Bonfire Dance by Necromancy Cosmetica – a vegan & cruelty-free brand. So many people love it so why wouldn’t anyone you gave it to?

So that’s what I’d like to see under the Christmas tree next week, and hopefully I’ve given you some gift ideas and stocking stuffers for that friend or family member who seems a bit different. Have a Merry Christmas, everyone!

Posted on Saturday, December 17, 2016
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